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Love Intention: 2015

New Years 2015
 
 
It's been a while since I wrote a blog. Feeling rusty today. It's officially 2015. The holiday trappings are all put away in storage, ready for next year. So much ahead. Trying to stay in the moment.
 
I'd like to set an intention for myself. I read somewhere that the components of effective meditation were the following: intention, attention and non judgment.  A little mixology here, mixing some 12 steps in with meditation, but I do believe also "what you focus on grows".

Today I will Drop my illusions

There was a time in my life, when I would have told you with certainty that my husband did not love me. I would have told you that he was not capable of love. I would have told you that my situation was hopeless because I could not stop loving someone who did not appear to love me.
 
This was an illusion. It was never true. It was me who felt unable to love. It was me who felt that I could not be loved. It was only as I worked my DBT skills that I started to realize that this was a lie. It was a judgment, a story that had become my reality.

Another's love is not about you.

Sunset in Grand Marais Minnesota. This is what peace looks like to me!
 
If someone loves you, it is about them. If someone hates you, it is about them. It's so tempting to believe that the love or admiration of others somehow defines who we really are in the world. We may believe that the love or affection of others makes us smart, beautiful and important.
 
Imagine all the time and energy we have put into impressing others so that we can feel loved or important. Imagine instead what would happen if we re-directed that energy to building a better life and focused instead on meeting our intensions?
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